Sis, can I keep it real with you? Praying for a godly relationship is not enough. When you are a busy high-achieving Christian woman, you can become drenched in your career, forgetting that your love life is just as important.

When I went back to college, I was working full time while my husband was in the ministry managing events and handling multiple areas at a time. If we had not put in the effort to meet regularly, we wouldn’t have ended up together. We were too occupied to have time. This was while we were dating and getting to know each other.

We were both busy but I knew that I wanted to move this relationship closer to marriage so I had to make time. 

We lived in two different cities but we put in all the effort because our relationship was important to us. We both knew that we are destined by God to be each others’ “help meet”, and so we made sure to prioritize making time for each other and helping each other grow despite the tight circumstances. 

Healing Yourself and Your Past with the Lord

Dating is not easy especially if you are a career-forward woman. But sometimes, busyness is not always the case why you’re not meeting high-quality godly men and cultivating a thriving love life. It may be because of past baggage that you have continually carried until today. 

Before you open yourself to others, it’s important to first overcome thoughts of fear that lead to thinking “I don’t have time” or “I am afraid to get hurt”.

Take time to reflect on your painful experiences and acknowledge the toxic thought patterns that you have subconsciously built over time. With the guidance of the Lord, ask in prayer what you wish to experience in an ideal relationship and trust that it will happen with the effort you put in.

2. Overcoming the Blocks

Healing yourself is the first part in making a godly relationship possible, whether you are still in desire of it trying to make the relationship that you’re in a priority. Once you have acknowledged the toxic thought patterns that hinder you from dating, it’s time to overcome other blocks. 

These blocks may include your current workload and/or your daily schedule. It’s time to create balance by freeing up a slot for the special person in your life or for joining highly social events or online dating. I have always been told that what’s important to you, you find time for.

Additionally, if you have friends that you regularly see or have Saturday lunches with, it might be best to let them know of your plans as well. You’ll never know how much support you’ll get from the people you love until you express it!

Position yourself to be found

Nothing is pointless as long as you have a clear intention. It is not a waste of time to attend social events and/or fellowship opportunities if you know what you are looking for. Putting yourself in a position to be found is, no doubt, where you put most of the effort in dating.

However, it is not to say that you must put yourself wherever and whenever you can. It is also important to know that you know WHO you are looking for. To put this into practice, write down on a piece of paper the qualities you would like to find in a partner. Bless this piece of paper by placing your hand over it and praying over it to come to pass.

Do this practice regularly until you can almost say it by heart. By then, the only person whom you will attract and entertain is the one with the qualities that align with your desires and the will of the Lord.

Put it into Practice

A loving relationship to inspire future generations is what the Lord desires for you. A partner that supports you as much as he cares for his family is what you deserve. But do you put yourself in a position where you can grasp the opportunity to attract that amazing godly man? Do you constantly pray for it? Do you make time for it? Do you put in the effort?

If you’re serious in attracting the partner that you deserve, apply for my “Land Your Man™” Program to see if it’s a good fit. If you’re ready to talk about it and discover the love God has prepared for you, let’s see if the program is a good fit for you.